Letting go of judgement, however is not about being saintly, it’s actually just about freeing yourself from judging yourself and so attracting judgement from others. Peace of mind consists of
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In days one and two of this short series I talked about desisting taking your own opinions, beliefs and views too seriously and desisting judging things as either good or bad respectively, if you wish to attain and maintain peace of mind.
The next step is to desist condemning or praising the actions or achievements of others.
Judging others accurately is absolutely impossible unless you find yourself in their shoes.
Being centred, your natural set of inherent ethics will prevent you taking any actions that could be intentionally harmful to others – it has nothing to do with morals, which are exogenously generated. When you’re filling your skin and are centred within, with your heart open and your love for life, self and others naturally flowing, you cannot but act respectfully and lovingly.
And that’s all you have to know. Let others live out their own destinies without comment. Of course if the actions of those around you seem dangerous or harmful, you do all you can to protect yourself and others from them but unless you wish to trap yourself unnecessarily in the existential slipstream of judgement, which inevitably leads to self-judgment and others judging you, far better to keep it at that and not pass judgement or comment.
You’ll find your life growing instantly lighter, freer and more filled with vitality as soon as you step out of judgement mode.
So every time you catch yourself doing it, notice how your body and spirit contract and instead say something along the lines of, ‘there but by the grace of the Tao go I’, and focus on centring yourself in order to realign yourself with your own set of intrinsic natural ethics – te or virtue, as the ancient Taoists called it.
May your cup runneth over with te (actually pronounced tay) and an abundance of wonderful surprises today, tonight and right through the weekend.
(I’ll tell you the final step on Monday).
Continued in more depth in the Members' Wisdom Drop
...so rather than limit things as being either good or bad and thereby limit yourself to at most half of what’s on offer, fruit-of-life-wise, as you catch yourself taking a position on something or someone, tell yourself, this is not necessarily bad, not necessarily good, it just is what it is.
And what it is,
Yesterday I talked about not insisting on your opinions, beliefs or version of reality but to keep it fluid and remain in the childlike state of not-knowing if you wish to access the vitality which leads to living the full life you want, whence arises your peace of mind. Today’s step is to entertain the notion of desisting from seeing things as either good or bad. Doing so you divorce yourself from at least half of what’s on offer for you in the world. Understand that good and bad are merely opinions, based one particular view of the world – one locked-off camera angle and lighting scheme. Something that looks good in one moment, from one angle, lit in a certain way, can look equally bad the next moment, seen from a different angle under a different light.
There are a thousand examples a minute of this but let me go with the one that’s springing off the top of my head just now.
You’re passing through a large plain with factories, industrial plant and power stations filling every corner. High up on the lush green, wooded hill looking down on it all is a beautiful white mansion with what you imagine are wonderful views out over the whole valley below all the way to the opposite hills. ‘How wonderful it would be to see the world from up there instead of down here,’ you may probably think. But go up to that beautiful mansion on its lush green wooded hillside and you’ll swiftly realise on gazing through any of its front windows that you’re actually just looking out over all the industrial ugliness from there, so in fact life affords you a better perspective altogether when you’re down on the plane.
I wish you the joy of knowing where you are is the result of an unfathomably complex chain of events that began at the start of time itself and is therefore exacty as it’s meant to be and all is well – in fact all is utterly terrific.
Continued in more depth in the Members' Wisdom Drop
…in other words, relinquish the unnecessary need to always be right about everything or anything. Allow yourself to be wrong too. Otherwise you create too narrow a passageway to walk along and your spirit will be constricted. When your spirit’s constricted, external life constricts you in return
Starting today I’m going to present a short series here, with a more in depth look in the Members’ Wisdom Drop each day, explaining the basics behind attaining and maintaining peace of mind according to ancient Taoist philosophy, which though from another time and place is universally applicable to us today and works with great effect once you get your mind round it.
The first thing is to desist from insisting to self or others on your opinions, beliefs or version of reality. This implies that no matter how sorted and sound you think your views, no matter how well sussed you think you have the universe and the way it works, you must always hold your judgement about it in suspension and allow life to surprise you. You must always allow life to be the unfathomable mystery it is, rather than kid yourself you know exactly what’s what. Thinking you know exactly what’s what about everything or anything rigidifies you and makes you lose touch with your inner childlike spirit of adventure, whence springs your true vitality.
Allowing yourself not to know may at first give rise to insecurity, it’s true, but don’t be afraid of a little insecurity. Simply relax into it and enjoy the internal trembles.
It’s when you’re at your most existentially insecure that the greatest miracles happen in your life.
I wish you a run of great miracles now.
Continued in more depth in the Member’s DocBox
When people talk about manifesting the life you want, they talk about the ebb and flow of things and how the tide going out empties you of the old and the incoming tide brings you the new. Understanding this tidal movement is essential to make sense of the apparent delays that occur when you’re endeavouring to manifest something big in your life. Ebbs and tides are a property of the ocean. Consider the huge unpredictable turbulence and power of the ocean – the currents, swells, flows and counter-flows, the storms, the calm and generally immense movement of it all. Setting sail upon the ocean, you do so with respect because you know it is more powerful than you. You do so with patience because you know you can’t rush the ocean. And you do so with faith, because though you are able to set your course, steer the rudder and power the ship, you know you have to surrender to the ocean’s greater power and trust it to carry you safely to your destination.
It’s exactly the same on the psycho-energetic level. You set your course by clarifying and stating your intention – say to manifest a life of perfect satisfaction and fulfilment, you power yourself courtesy of your natural vitality and you let go and surrender to the ocean’s greater power to deliver you what you want or to what you want.
So don’t rush or push the process. Once you’ve stated your intention and harnessed it to your chi, let go with full respect for the unfathomable power of the ocean of life and trust it to carry you to the next phase.
Feeling respect for the ocean is feeling respect for the Tao. Respect the Tao and the Tao respects you back and in that mutual respect everything you wish for comes to pass without delay in the appropriate way to produce your highest possible good.
So may it be for you this merry Monday.
Continued in the Members’ Wisdom Drop…
Assuming you have no idea what’s coming next in your life, ask yourself in broad terms the sort of quality or qualities you want the next phase of your life to be informed by. For instance you may want the next phase to be one of unprecedented joy and satisfaction. You don’t need to