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The Tao is a lovely thing. Our traditional notion of the divine is of something much larger than us, something much greater, something to fear, something to be in awe of and so on. And that’s fine. All notions have their place and if it serves some people some of the time to cosmologically position themselves like that, that’s fine too. However if you really want to take your life in your hands and live it, love it and ride it for all it’s worth, you may find the following notion handy to contemplate, entertain and experiment with as you wend your way today and tonight.
You can see the Tao as your mother – the Great Mother – and that works a lot of the time. You the child in a state of surrender, trusting all your needs to be met. It’s a beautiful model. I use it myself often.
But what if you tried seeing the Tao as your friend?
What if you trained your mind and being to know the Tao as your best friend, with whom you have all your best fun?
What if the Tao was your friend?
Well seeing as the shape of reality is entirely up for grabs and you can morph it according to your will, provided you know how to access your will and can move with power as a single unified unit through time and space and are, therefore at liberty to choose any sort of cosmological model you like and even go on to change models with as much frequency as feels right, there’s nothing stopping you adopting the model of the Tao as your best friend and to do so with absolute metaphysical validity.
It’s quite an odd sensation at first, as it totally goes against the traditional grain to see the Great Isness of the universe as being on the level with you, a chum to make life go with more of a swing for you, your own personal Harvey The Rabbit, invisible to everyone but you. It feels a bit awkward and cheeky to be so presumptuous. But if you can squirm through that and ease yourself into position with the Tao by your side (as well as behind, in front, above, below and within you), you’ll find it to be the best chum you’ve ever had and furthermore will find that when you ask it to sort things out for you, it does so far more like a friend who only wants to make you happy and make you smile. And just as with any friend you can’t hang out all the time without going numb on each other. It’s only natural that as your mind gets drawn to external distractions you’ll momentarily forget your friend but as soon as the external diversion is over, you’ll come back naturally to discuss what you’ve just experienced, just as you would with any good friend. And the Tao won’t call you an ungrateful or fair-weather friend for it. To the contrary, it will totally understand, as it too will have been off exploring.
It’s a healthy friendship and one that might serve you well over the long haul, hence why I mention it here.
May it serve you so well, all the details of your life come together in the most surprisingly refined and elegant way this very day.
Once the food, water and basic requirements are covered, the reason most people strive and work their fingers to the bone is to be able to attain and maintain some personal space. The way it appears to work is the more money you have to throw at it, the more space you get. If, assuming you’re not using your own private jet, and you spend £6000 you get to and fro between London and LA with relatively more space than if you spend £4000 on business, £1400 on premium economy or £700 on economy, for instance. Of course with the extra space you get, you are also accorded an extra degree of status but it’s the space you pay for. It’s the same with homes. People want to feel they own their own universe and so inevitably want the universe they own to be as large as possible otherwise it doesn’t feel much like a universe.
This tendency to want to shut yourself away in your own private, controlled universe, incidentally, arises from the yin energy within – that which makes you want to seek permanent structure to give you the illusion of being safe and sound amidst an ever-changing and potentially dangerous world. The necessity of reaching out beyond the confines of your constructed universe, on the other hand, in order to engage in commerce and social connection with others, is a product of the yang energy within, that which urges you to thrust forth.
And it actually doesn’t matter how tightly you construct your personal universe, nor how much money you invest in its construction, ultimately you are part of a continuum that actually knows no boundaries and the more you surrender to this fact, the more connected you know yourself to all existence, the less you feel the need to construct illusions of separateness, which can save you inordinate amounts of money and stress. In fact the more you know yourself as an indivisible aspect of an indivisible universe and the more comfortable you become with that over time, the more you realise that the entire universe is your personal universe – you own it all – as much as anyone else does. And though of course you’re still likely to arrive more rested off a long haul flight the more legroom and shoulder width you’ve paid for, the actual quality of experience is by no means determined in this way. Quality of experience is determined solely by your internal response to external conditions. For forsooth, you can fly first class all the way and still be suffering the pains of existential ennui or anguish, just as you can travel all cramped in your seat and enjoy a transcendent interlude of unparalleled scope. Either way it’s quicker than walking and you’ll get there the same whichever end of the plane you sit or lie down in.
They key to attaining space lies in developing space within, or more precisely developing awareness of the space that’s already within via meditation on a daily basis and if you’re plumbing for that approach, there’s no better style of meditating than the Taoist, as far as I can tell after decades of exploration.
For a viable run down on a short, easy to do Taoist meditation for generating more space within, which in turn will magically cause you to find yourself with more space around you in a physical sense without having to do anything much about it, according to the as within, so without universal immutable law, check today’s Members Wisdom Drop, for which you'll need to be or become a member, and it's worth it.
Meantime, may you feel so much natural first class internal spaciousness today and tonight you feel the whole world could fit on the end of your little finger.
The sense of being only very weeny in a damn huge universe makes you want to mimic the Tao and create a miniature universe for yourself that you can control just like the Tao. You’ll do this either in your head or spread out in real time on the ground somewhere at a location near you.
At certain stages of meditation practice you become aware that the cosmos is comprised of an infinite number of points of individuated consciousness – that every atomic and subatomic particle is an individuated point of consciousness and that in the same way as these particles congregate
If you’ve ever experimented with repeating positive affirmations, you’ll know how powerfully and radically it can shift your reality, almost without you having to do anything to make it happen.
However in creating a new reality, it’s important to set it in context. You live in an interdependent web of human activity and consciousness, hence whatever reality you create will impact on the reality of everyone else. Your reality does not exist in a bubble, in other words but as part of a continuum and comprises an essential aspect of everyone else’s reality, whether they know it or not.
When what you want for yourself is in accord with the highest good of all humanity, it tends to manifest for you more swiftly fully and powerfully, than otherwise. And it’s not even that important what it is. What really counts is where you’re coming from when you initiate the intention to create whatever it is you want.
While it is beyond the scope of the rational mind to know for sure what is for the highest good of everyone, unless you’re the Great Isness itself reading this, no longer in limited human form, the Great Isness within you that does know what’s for the highest good responds favourably whenever you simply assert that what you want be for the highest good of everyone.
This can be done simply by repeating the following affirmation no less than six times so it finds its way into your subconscious:
What I want for myself is also for the good of all humanity – all the forces of existence are on my side now for the highest good of everyone.
As you repeat it, simultaneously picture you enjoying whatever it is you want, as if it’s already a reality.
For a powerful visualisation exercise to enhance this check out today’s Members Wisdom Drop, for which you'll need to be or become a member, and it's worth it.
Meanwhile, may you be altogether astonished to see how elegantly reality unfolds for you today and tonight as a result of reading this.
Imagine you couldn’t go wrong. Imagine no matter which choices you made, you’d always wind up in the right place at the right time successfully engaged in the right activity. Imagine you had such a handle on the flow of events you could always instinctively detect the optimal way to go at every turn without even thinking about it. Imagine you possessed supernatural intelligence in your belly that always guided you right. And all you had to do for it to work every time was to stop obfuscating the messages from within by thinking about everything so much all the time, to allow yourself to disengage from that level of mentation momentarily to allow the intuitive messages through loud and clear.
Wouldn’t it be grand to allow your mind to take a vacation and simply trust yourself to always be in the right place at the right time successfully engaged in the right activity.
The only downside to that would be it getting a bit samey always moving smoothly from one satisfying scenario to the next.
So to give the action some dynamics you’d simply have to mess up the picture from time to time, to confuse yourself and make it seem you’d lost your way, just so you could feel the exhilarating sensation of survival fear coursing through your veins. That would give the play sufficient edge to keep your attention engaged, wouldn’t it.
Well that’s pretty much how it is when you strip away all the theatrical devices and expose the bare bones of the mechanics subtending the warp and weft of everyday reality.
You are, beneath your disguise as an everyday person in the everyday world, a god or goddess in human form – you are the Tao in motion disguised as a human being – and as such do know exactly which move to make from moment to moment. However you block that by getting stuck in the front of your brain with its endless commentary and debate on how well or badly you perceive yourself to be doing as you wend your way along the path.
As soon as you stop all that – as soon as you draw the point from which you’re observing reality back into the midbrain so the forebrain goes instantly quiet, you are privy to all the information in the universe and no longer need rely on satnav to avoid the traffic or on the weather forecast to know how many layers to wear before leaving the house.
You instinctively know exactly what to do and how to do it from moment to moment.
If you find that hard to believe try this simple existential experiment: repeat no less than six times in a row, with gusto and conviction, “I am always in the right place at the right time successfully engaged in the right activity,” and if that doesn’t unleash a slew of happy moments of extreme serendipity for you this merry Monday, I’ll eat my shoes.
May you benefit from extreme serendipity today and tonight and the results be stupendous.
In the process of manifesting something you want, life will sometimes test you and make it look as if the goal is unreachable. At these time, the way through is twofold: one, hold fast to the vision of what you want and keep seeing it as if it’s already fact, in spite of the way external events may seem to be going in the opposite direction, and two, use this as an opportunity to let go of needing it to happen. Give it space not to be, in other words, for only by giving it space not to be, do you give it space to be.
We’re dealing primarily with the psychic realm here. 98% of the manifesting process occurs on the psychic level before the remaining 2% brings what you want into manifest reality. So if you’re psychically crowding the process by being too needy for it to happen, you’re limiting the possibilities. The process simply won’t have enough room to grow within.
You have to be willing to be complete and satisfied with or without what you want coming into manifestation.
You have to let go of the need – you have to let go of it happening at all, yet you have to simultaneously keep holding onto the vision regardless.
To ensure best results with all manifesting processes, keep your vision merely to one of you looking and feeling utterly beautiful, safe, abundant, successful, happy, healthy, confident and thriving and leave the surrounding, supporting details to the Tao Of Everything to sort out for you. That way you allow the Tao the greatest scope to perform for you and deliver the largest result possible, which you might have otherwise limited with limited imagination. Only the Tao Of Everything is big enough to see the whole picture and so move the details of material life optimally to ensure the optimal result for you.
Meanwhile, as an exercise in letting go, for the next three out-breaths, let go of needing anything to happen at all, other than needing to be here enjoying being here just for the sake of being here, as this is what you’ve manifested so far, so you might as well enjoy it or what’s the point.
May you enjoy yourself being here so much today and tonight regardless, you don’t even care what you manifest next.
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