Assuming the root of all suffering lies in cherishing yourself before all others and the root of all happiness lies in cherishing others before yourself, it stands to reason that in such a self-obsessed world as this, the facility for getting over yourself enough to even notice others, let alone cherish them, needs a bit of lubrication every now and then.
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If liberation interests you, much of it can be facilitated on a moment-by-moment level, simply by being willing to divest yourself of the burden of wanting other people to think you’re great. The Tao is great. It stretches in all directions in time and space forever and ever. That’s great. However much you achieve, however good your hair looks, however marvellous you are in whichever respect, compared to the Tao, it doesn’t nudge the scale. However, as an expression of the Tao, as a manifestation of its ineffable power, you are great – the greatest – but only as that. Your uniqueness is a unique expression of the Tao. Your prowess in the fields in which you excel, is an expression of the Tao. Your beauty is an expression of the Tao. Even your hairstyle is an expression of the Tao.
Same goes for everyone you know and everyone you see, whether in real life or on a screen. What’s great is the Tao informing us. Knowing this, you no longer need carry the burden of wanting others to think you’re great. If they can’t see the Tao in you and the greatness that bestows, it simply means they can’t see it in themselves and is no reflection on your own worth. Conversely if they do think you’re great, merely judging by surface appearance, they’re deluded and their opinion is without merit.
In fact, the only way to realise your greatness, as an expression of the Tao, is to forego your desire to be thought of as great. Seek only to be ordinary and desire that everyone thinks the Tao is great instead, for in that way lies the path to universal transformation.
Have a great day (and night).
Breathing is the most important thing in life. Everything else can wait. We all know that. What’s slightly less known is that controlling the tempo, duration and quality of breath directly determines the way your mind operates and feels, hence the quality of moment-to-moment experience of being alive – rough breath makes for a rough mind – silken breath makes for a peaceful mind.
When you stop feeling sorry for yourself, when you stop moaning about the view not being perfect, when you stop whinging about your aches and pains, when you stop bemoaning the disharmony in your relationships, when you stop lamenting lost opportunities, when you stop groaning about not having enough money, it starts dawning on you how blessed you are: blessed to be here in the first place, blessed to have a mind that provides you consciousness, blessed to have a body to serve as a vehicle for your consciousness, blessed to have people on the planet with whom you have a deep connection, blessed to have the potential for deep connections with countless numbers of people, blessed to have a sense of humour, blessed to have sensation, blessed to be on such an interesting and beautiful planet, blessed by the ability to love and be loved and so on – the list is endless once you start focusing on it.
The trouble is your pride gets involved so once you’ve chosen to feel sorry for yourself, your pride makes you want to justify that choice by reinforcing the negative thoughts to back up your argument that life is shit, because your pride makes you always want to be right.
At times your pride can be so fierce, it even overcomes your craving for happiness – often in fact – hence why it’s hard to get off the self-pity, however if you don’t all you’re achieving is unnecessary misery, which is fine if you enjoy that sort of thing but otherwise pretty much a waste of time.
So join me now in blowing a kiss goodbye to self-pity and a opening your arms wide to embrace all the new good coming your way. Say bye-bye self-pity, hello new good, three times sincerely, carry on as you were and before you can say Davey Roll Dush, something spectacular will occur in your life.
May you be blown away by the degree of spectacle you now experience.
With love, BD
It hurts being alive. That’s why we have a tendency to hold the breath, almost without noticing it: it’s a bogus attempt to hold onto life and at the same time, hold ourselves back from it – to stop time and hence stop the pain. Of course it doesn’t work.
Everyone’s in pain. Most are doing a damn efficient pretending job about it. They cover it with a brave face, throw up a clever shield, they sport a good look, conduct themselves with appropriate style but everyone’s in pain. The pretence is so effective, most don’t even notice the pain within, so numbed is it by external focus and obsession with worldly distraction. There’s nothing unnatural or wrong with this, other than it’s painful: pain is intrinsic to the human condition. How else would so many drugs of all sorts, legal, medical, illegal, non-medical, semi-legal, semi-medical, including the drugs people don’t think of drugs, such as tea, coffee, alcohol, sugar and assorted anti-depressants be sold around the world? How else would so much produce appealing mostly only to vanity (cosmetics, toiletries, fashion, lifestyle, cars etc) be sold around the world? How else would so much dross passing as entertainment be sold around the world? People want numbing from the pain, even if they’re so distracted by the medicine, they don’t consciously realise it.
Pain, however, is only pain – merely the transverse of pleasure.
Indeed by allowing yourself to enter fully into the pain in the moment, this one for example, whether the pain is emotional, mental, physical or a combination, by desisting resisting or distracting yourself from it and really immersing yourself in it, breathing into it, within but a few concentrated breaths, it ceases to be perceived as pain and is experienced merely as sensation. A few more breaths and even the sensation diminishes. If you really let go and focus on the breath, it vanishes altogether. All you have to do then is repeat the procedure as often as you remember throughout the day and night and thenceforth for evermore and not only will you significantly gradually reduce your pain, whether headache, heartache, mind-ache, purse-ache or worse, you’ll equally reduce your reliance on external factors to bolster you.
You can’t heal the world, you can only heal yourself. You can help others heal themselves by healing yourself and setting an example. Healing consists in acceptance and breathing, as described here. The more you accept the pain, accommodating it rather than eliminating it, by breathing into it, the more at one you are with the pain-free, pleasure-filled natural state, that is your birthright.
By accepting and breathing, may you surprisingly, naturally, feel so little pain and so much pleasure this merry Monday, in fact, it’s all you can do not to go dancing crazily in the street, shouting I love you to all the world.
By desisting from struggling to attain big things now and instead focusing on doing each small thing that presents itself along the way, with utmost attention and care, you will, paradoxically attain success in the big thing you’re trying to achieve.
Using the most advanced sound-healing techniques in creating the complexity of frequencies in this piece in order to strike a balance between the three 'psychic chambers', the basis of your 'spirit body', yet set to a perfectly modern PURE BAREFOOT beat to keep it jaunty for you, the lyrical narrative employs hypnotic effects to seduce you into knowing your true identity as a limitless being of magnificent light - intended to leave you feeling encouraged, energized and enlightened. Made for you over many many hours
The phrase, giving vent to your spleen, always caught my imagination: picturing opening the vents at the sides of the spleen with a little hidden lever in your left ear and that sort of thing. But why would you and why does it mean speaking your mind?